Welcome, Mayumarri Community Member. We hope you will find this area helpful. The Mayumarri Forum area exists to promote community and support amongst those who have been guests at Mayumarri. It is exclusively for member’s use. The forum area lets us stay in touch with each other, regardless of where we live. This is important so that we can encourage and support each other along our healing journeys. Everyone who is a community member will have completed a healing week at Mayumarri. That means that everyone will be familiar with the Mayumarri Model, and how to apply it. The Forum is a place where community members can love and support one another. With this in mind, it is vital that every user of the forum respects and adheres to the guidelines. The community area must be maintained as a safe place where community members can share feelings and thoughts without being triggered, or triggering anyone else. If you feel you cannot stick to these guidelines, please don’t participate in forums until you feel you can abide by the guidelines. The reason we have guidelines for the forum is so that users can feel safe, and know that they can stay in touch with others from Mayumarri without being triggered or feeling scared or intimidated. They are based on the importance of respecting one another.
1.     Please use a name or a nickname when you post something on the forum, so that people can know where the post has come from. This helps people feel safe, as anonymous posts can be scary for some users.
2.     We ask that you only use one name, and the same name, at all times. While this may be difficult for some guests, it is vital in enhancing the sense of community. It is also really important so that other users can get a sense of who is online. If you are not in a position where you can only use the one name (for example, if you have DID and you have switched), we ask you to be aware that while you have switched, the forum is not a place for you to be. The forum is for adults. If it is about a part wanting to be heard, the ‘person’ or ‘host’ can relay the information. This can be done by writing “My 5 year old wants people to know he feels very happy”.
3.     Please use the subject area for your post to alert other users if content potentially could be triggering. It is important that people can make informed choices when it comes to reading or replying to your post. Consider using the following abbreviations: SA (sexual abuse); PA (physical abuse); SRA (satanic ritual abuse); GA (general abuse); Triggered (if you are feeling triggered).
4.     Please avoid writing posts that are suicidal or threatening self harm. It is not the community member’s responsibility to keep you safe, and these posts make other users feel scared and triggered. If you are feeling suicidal, please call a supportive friend, or Lifeline (13 11 14).
5.     Please be respectful of each other, and avoid criticising other users of the forum. Everyone using the forum is a survivor of childhood trauma. Please treat each other with respect. If you feel angry or annoyed with something someone has posted, please deal with these feelings without confronting via the forum. It might help to recognise that your strong feelings might be linked to your own background.
6.     Remember that capital letters are usually interpreted as someone shouting. While anger is acceptable in the forum, using capitals is often translated as anger even when the post is not angry.
7.     Please try to avoid swearing. Even though it might be something you’re comfortable with, not everyone else will be. If you really want to swear, try using #%$ instead.
8.     Please, please do not go into details with any trauma. Try to remember that sharing details doesn’t help us to heal – sharing feelings does.  So, to keep people safe, no details of abuse will be tolerated. This will result in immediate total barring from the Forum.
9.     Although you might be trying to help, we want to encourage you to avoid attempting to diagnose anyone. Even if you feel they might be experiencing similar things to you, it’s actually more helpful for the other person if they address these things with a medical professional.
10.  When you talk about your healing week, we remind you to share experiences, not names. Details of who was on your healing week are confidential.
11.  The reason we encourage people to use the forum is that it promotes community and support. With this in mind, we encourage you not to delete any post that anyone else has contributed to. It’s important that we validate each other and value what everyone has to say. With this in mind, it’s also important that we don’t purposely bring our posts forward or to the top. We realise that this cannot be avoided when someone has replied to your post, however please do not deliberately bring your post forward. Everyone’s voice is equally important. 

We hope that by following these guidelines, the forum will become a safe and beneficial place for community members. These guidelines exist to protect community members and to create a comforting, supportive and respectful environment. The forum will operate with a ‘three strikes and you’re out’ policy. The first breach of any guideline may result in one week’s suspension. The second breach of any guideline may result in a one month suspension. The third breach of any guideline is likely to result in a total suspension from participating in the forum. We need to keep other community members safe at all times. If you receive a total suspension, we suggest you work on your healing journey and approach us when you feel you can understand what the issue was about. You may then contact the Mayumarri office and ask if the suspension may be reconsidered. The moderator also has the right to invoke an immediate total suspension, should there be a severe breach of the guidelines. Further, any posts that breach any of these guidelines will immediately be removed, and discussed with the Mayumarri office. If any member or member's post is removed from the forum, the moderator may leave a message in the forum briefly stating the member’s absence or removal of an unsafe post, if necessary. Once a member has left, for whatever reason, we ask that you respect their privacy and do not mention them in posts. It is best to contact Mayumarri directly if you need further discussion/healing about the removal in order to help the forum return to safety. If Moderators feel that posts about a removed member are disturbing the safety of forum members, they will remove those posts.

Forum
You can post messages here that help you keep in contact with your inner child and the Mayumarri Community, like special poems that have helped you, or maybe what your needs or feelings are. Maybe another member is looking for support and you can be there to walk alongside them in their time of need. If you think that your message may be triggering to another user, it would be helpful to provide a warning at the beginning of your message which highlights this.

Chat Room
You can have a live chat with other Community Members and if you choose you can also chat privately with someone where the rest of the chat room cannot see what you are chatting about. There are also games to play.

Confidentiality
The Member Area is confidential and it is up to you how much information you give out about yourself. You are allocated a number and recognized by your member number only – any other information you provide to other users is your choice. However, we have a Website Host who is a previous or current Carer from the Mayumarri Community, who will monitor the use of the Forum for inappropriate use.

Terms of use of the Mayumarri Forum
Please take into consideration that all Community Members are survivors of childhood trauma and that the aim of the Mayumarri Forum website is to provide a positive, nurturing healing environment for all members - therefore, some postings may be inappropriate towards healing. Community Members are reminded that that we are all responsible for our own feelings and that we must consider the other users of this website. You may not harass, abuse, threaten, or advocate violence against other members or individuals or groups. You may not post content that is obscene, offensive, defamatory, otherwise objectionable or illegal under any federal or state law. We also ask that you try not to go into too much detail about stories and experiences that you have suffered, as this can be very triggering to other members. If you are unsure whether your content is consistent with these guidelines, please err on the side of caution and do not post. If any member posts a message which is considered inappropriate, the posting will be deleted and your access to the site may be suspended. Mayumarri reserves the right to do so at its absolute discretion. Before you are issued with a username and password for the community area you'll be asked to sign a copy of this agreement and return it to us.